Removing The Mind Parasite

In his book, 1984, George Orwell described a totalitarian rule where the present time rulers would alter history to their liking in order to keep them in power:

“Every record has been destroyed or falsified, every book rewritten, every picture has been repainted, every statue and street building has been renamed, every date has been altered. And the process is continuing day by day and minute by minute. History has stopped. Nothing exists except an endless present in which the Party is always right.”

Unfortunately enough, it seems like our present time is beginning to reminiscence the stories found in the books like 1984, Fahrenheit 451 and A Brave New World. Media can’t be trusted to tell the truth, books are being “burned” (or banned, like the recent banning of certain Dr. Suess books) and people’s mind are kept calm with mind altering medication.

While all of this is happening, there’s too much information out there to keep up with it all. And what information does exist, its laced with an extra layer of fear to control the minds of the population at large.

All of this leads to the killing of the mind; menticide:

All of this is true. This is the world we’re living in.

I explored this further in my article, Your Life Is A Lie.

Yet, I’m not too worried about it. How can this be?

It is because I removed the parasite that was weighing down my mind years ago. I learned to accept life as it is. Having done so, I’m certain anyone can accomplish this feat.

In this article I’m going give you a step-by-step guide on how to control your past, present and future – at least to certain extent. The hope is at least one person out there gives it a try and benefits from it.

For that one person, let’s get started:

Taking Back Control

Source: Daniele Colucci

“Those who control the present, control the past and those who control the past control the future.”

George Orwell, 1984

Step 1: Write down the memories of your past together with how you felt at the time.

Who controls the present, controls the past. Who controls the past, controls the future.

George Orwell talked about the controlling body of a society; a government. But this is actually also true on an individual level.

You see, most are not in full control of their present self. They are stuck, being controlled by what was, what could have been and where they might be going. They are never truly in the ‘here and now.’

I wrote more about this in my article Do You Believe In Ghosts?

In order to gain back control of the past some resort to going to therapy to resolve the underlying issues that still have a strong grasp on their lives years, perhaps decades after they happened. The already long-gone scenario may not be present, but the strong memory of it remains.

This strong memory then leads to, among other things, a form of self-flagellation:

Why me?

Why did I deserve this?

Has God abandoned me?

Why didn’t I do this or that instead?

Could I have done something differently?

All of these are valid questions, I suppose. Have you tried actually answering them?

“We shall not grow wiser before we learn that much that we have done was very foolish.”

F. A. Hayek

The way I was able to move past these questions, and let go of my past, happened by accident. I just couldn’t hold it all in me any longer. But before that happened, I had to do some serious thinking.

At first, I tried therapy. It just didn’t work for me. I don’t really want to share my life in detail with another person, even if they’re obliged to keep it to themselves. It also happens to be my problem, so I should deal with it myself.

With this in mind, I began looking for answers from within me. At first it was tough. Instead of fixing the problems I had, I just postponed what needed to get done by distracting myself from the real world. I spent years mulling it over in my head.

After years of anguish, I found a way to help myself: I wrote a book about it.

This book has never been published (and never will), but it is the most important book I ever wrote. This is what I did:

I used a method called “writing therapy” to get through what I was going through in my head.

I started by writing down every memory I had from early childhood to adulthood. As I wrote down my memories, I also wrote how I felt about it at the time. I also wrote down what I would have done differently today.

I didn’t write it to myself; I always imagined I was writing it for someone else. As a result, it was like writing an autobiography instead of it being just a after-the-fact diary.

Without going too much into it: it was perhaps the best thing I ever did regarding handling my past. It helped me remove the mental blockade that had plagued my mind for years. I was able to free myself from my thoughts by writing it all down. I couldn’t recommend it enough.

But its not the only thing I did. This is how I continued the exercise:

Steering The Ship

Source: Joseph Barrientos

“There are many who find a good alibi far more attractive than an achievement. For an achievement does not settle anything permanently. We still have to prove our worth anew each day: we have to prove that we are as good today as we were yesterday. But when we have a valid alibi for not achieving anything we are fixed, so to speak, for life.”

Eric Hoffer

Step 2: Write down your goals in detail.

No one can predict the future. For this reason, and by definition, future is uncertain. This is because there are no certainties; only probabilities.

After I was done writing about my past, it was time to think about my future: what I wanted to accomplish and who I wanted to be.

By this time I had read many self-help books, such as Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, The Richest Man in Babylon by George Samuel Clason and Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki.

I also knew that humans could survive and thrive in difficult circumstances through various books, but primarily from Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl.

Finally, books like Thinking Fast And Slow by Daniel Kahneman helped me understand how different ways of thinking and approaching situations could help a person achieve different (better) results. Books by Nassim Nicholas Taleb are also highly recommended.

In the same book about my past, I started writing about what I wanted to get done in the future. I wrote down a plan which included my goals (what I wanted to accomplish), how I was planning on reaching said goals and in what timeframe. I kept my plan of reaching my goals vague enough, but the timeframe was a strict deadline I couldn’t deviate from.

Once I had written down my goals I started immediately working on them. All of my goals were somewhat life-altering and significant.

After the fact I can say that I’ve since accomplished all of the goals I set for myself. Writing it down helped me immensely in the process. You will learn this method in detail by reading Think And Grow Rich.

What I recommend is you to have at least one health goal (like losing weight), one financial goal (make/save X amount of something) and one artistic goal (be creative! in your own way).

With that done, lets move on to the present:

Here And Now

Source: Marina Vitale

“…you can never be happy and dress yourself solely in the glass of other men’s approval.” 

Nicholas Flood Davis

Step 3: Learn to live in the present. You do this by focusing on things you can control.

You can’t go back in time and change the past. It is what it is, or I guess in this case it was what it was. At the same time, your past DOES NOT have to define you (this holds true for both good and bad deeds). People can change, and so can you – if you want it bad enough.

Future is impossible to predict perfectly. If someone manages to do so, perhaps there’s more to the trick than meets the eye. You can get pretty close with a prediction with the right data, but there always needs to be some room left for deviation and improvisation.

With this in mind, its quite clear you can’t fully control the future nor can you change your past. That leaves the present, in which you are in full control. Many just fail to take the advantage out of this fact.

The first thing you need is a kind of North Star. You do this by writing down your goals in detail and actually working towards achieving those goals. This will help you avoid wandering around aimlessly. Everybody needs a goal; something to aim for.

Next you need to understand that most media is there to distract you and steal your time. Time is the most precious resource you have and here and now is the only thing that matters. Be it social media or media such as the news, what of real value can be gained from them? Very little is the answer.

The reason why media is mostly a waste of time is because life is about asking and answering questions. No question of high value can be answered with a single word or a simple headline. Deep questions require deep thoughts, and these thoughts can’t be, more often than not, explained with just 280 characters. Amusing as it may be, media in general is not worth your time.

I wrote more about this in my article The Enemy And How To Defeat It.

What can one do to control the present?

Firstly, remove distractions. Whatever you believe to be a distraction, a time vampire, remove it from your presence if it bothers you.

Second, create yourself a surrounding that stirs imagination. Jordan Peterson famously recommended that people clean their rooms, and that may be the answer for some, but I know many artists who are at their most creative in chaotic environments. Do what feels right for you to do what you do best.

Third, Learn to control your fear. I wrote two articles about this: Conquering Fear and the previously mentioned Do You Believe In Ghosts? Fear is but an illusion. You can learn to let go of it.

And fourth, focus on things you can control. There are many reasons to be worried about the future right now, but be honest with yourself, how much of what you are worried about can you personally control?

Your past is in the rear-view mirror. There’s nothing to be done about it other than to learn from your mistakes. Your past achievements are also just that, past achievements. It is time to move on.

Also, stop worrying about what others think. You don’t really know what they’re thinking, now do you? Indeed. Instead, just do you.

Let your credo be this: If you(I) can do something about it – DO IT. If there’s nothing you(I) can do about it, then don’t worry about it.


Today

Source: Ben Hershey

“Of all tyrannies, a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It would be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron’s cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end for they do so with the approval of their own conscience.”

C. S. Lewis

“For the greater good” is what they say; flapping their gums as if their opinions are important.

Like other tyrants in history, their rule won’t last forever. Nothing lasts forever.

And the worse it gets, the better it will eventually be. The worst memories are the stickiest, which is why nobody wants to repeat them.

Right now one of the best things any one person can do is focusing on themselves and on their personal journey. This includes connection to something greater.

Don’t forget about spirituality and religion.

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